If You Don't Want To Suffer, Why Start?

by Margie Rougeot

If you don’t want to suffer, why start? I recently asked myself that very question. If I don’t want to suffer, have hurt feelings, feel depressed, feel lost and not know what to do next, then why do I? Why am I so confused on the direction my life has taken? This is not what I wanted to happen. It felt like I was traveling along at a high rate of speed and suddenly my life took a turn, but I wasn’t holding on. Needless to say, I ended in a heap trying to sort my life out.

I sat in my misery for a while. Then I started sorting through each feeling and exploring my belief behind that feeling. I knew that my beliefs were creating my experiences. I also realized that I had been lazy in managing my beliefs, and the outcome was not a pleasant one. The saying “That which does not kill you makes you stronger” came to mind. What also came to mind was that I had the tools to not experience the meaning behind the saying.

So why did I let myself get into such a state? I realized it was old habits, tradition learned from generation to generation, and one that hit a core in me, “I don’t deserve not to suffer.” OUCH, that hurt, then I smiled. It was one of those moments when I gently hit the heel of my hand to my forehead, what I refer to as hitting the reset button.

Through Avatar I have learned the “how to’s” for changing my beliefs thereby changing my experience, and now seemed like a good time to utilize that knowledge. As I explored my feelings, discovering the beliefs I held that were creating what I was experiencing, I started using the techniques to realign my life with how I wanted to live it. I was in awe at the creativity I exhibited when creating various beliefs. I was in awe at the ease with which I could now change those beliefs. During this process I came to the understanding that it is very easy to fall back into old patterns, but it is even easier to use the Avatar exercises and no longer create suffering in my life.

I am still traveling at a high rate of speed, but now I have my Avatar seat belt on. Should my life take an unexpected turn, I will not slide off the side of the road into another heap, but I instead will shout with joy and look forward to yet another adventure.

Margie Rougeot, Southern California

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