by Holly Riley
In case you haven’t met my old friend the “Why Monster” allow me to introduce you. He is the one that must ALWAYS know why; why this, why that, why you, why them, why does this keep happening, and the big one—why me! There is no why too big for this hungry monster. It’s never full, always room for more. Whatever answer it finds is not good enough—for too long anyway. Eventually it searches for more, better, or different answers—the big hunt for that answer that will finally change things for good.
It is a non-stop activity, this looking for answers as though an answer is going to change our lives. How many answers have we had, how much has our life changed because we knew the why of something? Does knowing why you eat too much help you lose weight? Does knowing why you have an abandonment issue help you trust others? There are so many people selling answers to why. You can always find somebody or something to fill in the blank: a workshop, a guru, a therapist, a friend, a critic, a spouse, a good book, a bartender. And if all that fails, just watch television for a while. The answer people are usually real close to the Why Monster. Some answers can be real expensive and some appear free. But, what is the cost?
We are indoctrinated to study long and hard, to know, to have our bags full of wonderful, colorful, new answers. The one with the best answer gets the attention prize. Well, I have paid an awful lot of money to get my whys answered, to become fancy at passing them along to others like a clever gal, to know more, and be admired for my knowing. I thought the key to a happy life was to know everything until this Avatar Master came along and shared the greatest answer of all with me—no answer. No answers to my whys, no advice, no cosmic dialogue on the law of duality, and no recommendation to read this or study that because it worked for so-and-so. He said, “You get to decide what you are going to believe, and what you believe will determine what you experience in your life.”
This stopped my clock—and the Why Monster did not like this answer at all! It got very active, as though its very life depended on it! My Why Monster wanted proof for this Avatar Master’s claim, and he wanted it now. He asked questions like, “How does this work? Why and how do you change a belief? Why don’t you know what you believe? Why can’t you just put a new belief on top of an old one and change your experience? Why don’t you teach it to me right now if it is so easy? Why isn’t this free so everyone can do it?”
The Avatar Master’s answer was real small, but he said it over and over again: “Avatar.” He spoke to me with such love and presence and never implied that he could solve my problem. He didn’t even pretend to want to. He gave me the gift of self discovery—the gift that lasts. He always asked me what I believed. He knew that it was discovering my own belief that was important. He gave me no pearls of wisdom; at least they didn’t seem like pearls to me. But, he did give me something very special, a feeling. It felt very different being with someone who didn’t fill in my blanks. It felt good, safe, and it felt like love. This great master never gave up. He continued to remind me that anything I am experiencing is a product of a belief I picked up somewhere along the line and how with Avatar I could exchange it for a belief I prefer.
So, a few more bouts with the Why Monster and I finally did the course with this great master. He had his hands full with me—from way back! You see, this great master is my dad. We have certainly had our differences. And I have to tell you that everything he said about Avatar is true. And everything he didn’t say, all the answers he didn’t give, were an incredible gift—that gift of self discovery, one of the greatest lessons of my life. As a result, my children are getting the same gift. They are learning to see when someone is handing them a belief and how, if they choose to believe it, it will determine their experience. It is amazing to witness their discovery and to not fill in their blanks, to not have their whys become my answers. Our children are learning to live deliberately. There is an obvious shift in our family since my husband and I have taken Avatar. The children have chimed right in, and there is far more harmony.
My feeling didn’t lie. It said, “Do it. Do Avatar.” My Why Monster said, “Don’t! What about the time, money, family? It won’t work.” etc. etc. etc. I am glad I listened to my heart. I gave this gift to myself, from me to me. Since taking Avatar with my dad my life is filled with joy unlike any I imagined possible. I have never been so in love with my family, the world, my life. I have never been so in love with me. I didn’t even like me before—not really. What a switch it is to go through life not being critical of myself.
As for the Why Monster, he is very, very quiet now. And one of the huge benefits of Avatar is having back all that attention and energy that was locked up and consumed in the “why” game. Now it’s available for other things like experiencing beliefs I choose: love, health, and having fun with what is in front of me. Life is fun! It used to be very serious.
Oh, and I did finally learn the answer to why. I learned the answer to all my whys. What a relief! Thank you Avatar. Thank you Harry, Avra, and Miken!
Holly Riley, Reno, Nevada
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